Quality Time or Quantity Time? (Written back when not married)
What is the meaning of Quality time and Quantity Time for a couple? What do you think is more impt?If you ask me this question, my reply will be:
Quality Time - Spending little time yet this little time still allows the couple to understand each other, talking to each other etc.
Quantity Time - Spending time together often like 4-5 times per week?
Which is more impt, to me both are impt for couple but if really got to choose maybe I would choose Quality Time because even if you spend Quantity Time time, you might still not able to get to understand your partner cos there isnt any suitable environment that allows the couple to talk their heart out, everywhere there go might have ppl or things like TV, computer to distrub one of both partner attention. While have Quality time without any distraction will be good even if it is just an hr or 2 which I think maybe I really need in my case.
Reflection on the above
Seriously, I feel in my relation communication is lacking, quantity time is lacking and most impt quality is also lacking.
I think I communicate and spend more quality time with my buddy if want to compare. Take Sharon and Gen for example, maybe I dont meet them often (maybe for Gen) but we communicate alot, and spending quality time together too (even for friends I think this applies too).
Nowadays, I properly just spend a Sun with Kel, even if I do meet Kel on wkdays, it be just a short meeting that doesnt allow us to talk much. Sun with Kel is not really a prefect time for a couple I suppose. Either the mum will call up Kel to ask if he free to do this or that like for the past few wks (not that I dont like, in fact I feel I do enjoy time with his mum together too but then at times I suppose no distrubance is good too esp if both of us really only meet once on a Sun every wk next time when both of us work) or even when we are at his plc, we dont have time to ourselves ok even wkdays are like that cos he is sharing a room with his bros (either of the room will have either bro around even when no bro there will still be TV, computer, and his bed to distract him), that leave us no privacy at all to talk even when I really feel I want to have a normal talk. Usually, I will just sit in the living room to watch TV or carry my dog. I really dont like going to his place at times.
I know the world is not prefect, but then why cant the bro be at least abit zi dong and let us have a tiny bit of time together? Sianz maybe Kel should really move into the store room so that he has a bit of privacy with me, the bros dont see us doing that to him right like knocking the doors, slping in the room, watching the TV when they are in the room first with their gf. When was the last time, the 2 of us really has time for each other without any distraction including TV and computer?
I dont even remember the feeling of being hug n cuddle. Sometimes I really needed a hug.
posted by Tritri @ 1:45:00 PM
